People-Pleasing & Poor Boundaries
KINDNESS IS A FREE CHOICE
You keep everyone happy.
You understand others’ needs, and they rely on you.
After all, you simplify their lives.
Sometimes, you feel like a servant, catering to everyone’s requests.
Your role is to smooth things over.
It’s just what you do.
But it comes at a cost.
There’s a limited amount of time in each day.
So, the time you give to others is time you don’t have for yourself.
You’re exhausted, irritable, and feel misused.
But you would feel guilty if you said, “No.”
It’s a lose-lose situation.
It’s hurting you, why does no one notice?
People-pleasing is not simply being nice or turning the other cheek.
It involves compromising your boundaries to avoid retaliation…
and giving in to keep the peace.
While once useful, people-pleasing is now causing burnout and resentment.
The line between yourself and others is blurred.
Reclaim Your Autonomy.
Implement stronger boundaries and learn to say, “No.”
Recognize manipulation. You are not responsible for other’s feelings.
Say “goodbye” to guilt, fear, and resentment. Say “hello” to your own needs.
Say “Yes” freely – out of kindness.
With good boundaries, life becomes more predictable.
And predictability leads to a calmer, healthier you! To achieve this, you can expect the counseling process to include many of the following steps:
- Completing an Assessment
- Setting goals
- Expressing yourself
- Understanding your thoughts
- Examining your behaviors
- Reviewing your progress
With the ability to say “no,” relationships become more balanced.
Acting in ways that remind people of your worth and dignity can create positive change in your relationships. Your counselor can help you navigate relationships better with these techniques:
- Gain insight into how the past affects your present.
- Learn how to identify manipulation and boundary crossing.
- Practice new boundaries.
- Recognize your own needs. Learn to ask for assistance.
End the feeling of being devalued, run ragged, and taken for granted by others. Call us today at (567) 644-8186, and we can chat about how we might help. We look forward to meeting you!